Two Types of Parents

The Clingy

Its self explanatory, “The Clingy”, to be straight to the point – it’s the type of parent who wants to know everything that their children is doing. There are perks of this type of parent and there are cons to it too…believe me…I am living it. Although it isn’t that bad, I like my mom being the type of person who wants to know everything – it made me feel safe when I was in my lowest. However the judgmental side of her comes when I get into mistakes for when I need help. Then that pisses me off, just thinking of the many times she did things for me and I could have done myself didn’t fuck me over at the moment but when I had to do it myself it was hard. She had “babied” me so much that sometimes I don’t even know how to do things and I struggle so much when I really needed it. So through constant failure and embarrassment I learned how to do it myself. For example, when I was fifteen my mom signed me up for Confirmation class. Now the coordinator didn’t exactly like my mother nor me and I did either. She went to go talk to her and well shit went bad shit after that. So a few months later the coordinator called me out of class and literally tried to shame me in front of my own teacher. I (metaphorically) rolled my sleeves up and thought to myself I am not going to be a fucking bitch, I would rather be fucking dead before this bitch thinks she can talk shit without me saying shit to her. Anyway, I fought with her but lost my pride when I began crying because I couldn’t hit her. I knew then that my argument would be taken as a joke. After that verbal fight, I had another one and I didn’t stutter, I didn’t cry, I didn’t even blink. And that moment, I knew that when I cried I left that childish bullshit behind and continued to be me but with a feisty trophy on my side.

The Self-reliant

Just like the “The Clingy”, “The Self-reliant” is just as self explanatory – the parent expects their children to be independent and grown up from the start. I couldn’t really think of it not being ideal but in one way – the self-reliant parent isn’t always there in serious situations and that isn’t good. However the self-reliant child is more likely to be independent and they have more chances to succeed in the real world. For example, my father would be the perfect example of the self-reliant parent, he works all day and in order to not fuck that up don’t fuck around – simple as that. My father loves and although he has only went to only two of my parent conferences in my whole life it doesn’t mean he doesn’t care about me. He does care about my grades and he does care about my life but he can’t always be around. He can’t always be there when I am sick, I have to toughen up and take medicine then leave it in the past. My father is all about progression and fun while my mother is about fixing problems and bringing up the past to fix the new. Both parents have different ways of parenting but both give the same message: Don’t fuck around and don’t fuck up because I either don’t have time or I don’t want to pass through that so be fucking good and keep moving forward.